Why Do Men Leave 'Good Women'? Find Out Here

Why Do Men Leave 'Good Women'? Find Out Here









He was SO into you … and then he wasn’t. Here

are the reasons he WON’T tell you:

We’ve all rented a room or two at the

“Heartbreak Hotel,” maybe even on more than

one occasion.

Sometimes, we say that we didn’t see the

breakup coming (even when it’s approaching like

a raging bull wearing a neon green shirt and

pressing a blow horn). Other times, they truly

do appear out of nowhere; everything was fine,

until suddenly … it wasn’t.

No matter how a breakup comes about, they

usually have something in common — three

secret reasons your ex is likely hiding — secrets

that keep him from fully expressing how he

feels.

You may think: No way … this isn’t the case. Not

my guy! Your man was sensitive, open, and

cried at the movies. But, all men struggle with

these issues, which confuse them and cause

them to bolt.

Understanding these issues can help you get

over a bad breakup … or, possibly help you get

your ex back. Here are the three secret reasons

men break up with really great women:

1. He felt pressured and inadequate

Were you constantly chasing him? Did you want

more love, affection than what he was doling

out? Did you feel like you were frequently trying

to “fix” things in the relationship?

If you can identify with any of these, there was

definitely an imbalance in your relationship, and

more than likely he felt pressured and

inadequate in your presence. And it’s important

that you know … that’s not at all your fault.

Most men run from emotional pressure like

they’re running for their lives (because, in their

minds, they are running for their lives).

Emotional pressure challenges the

underdeveloped part of a man’s masculinity and

makes him feel ill-equipped to deal. In his

mind, he feels like anything he does isn’t (and

never will be) good enough for you. This causes

men to naturally shut down and lock their

hearts up like Fort Knox, rather than deal with

any more feelings of pressure or inadequacy.

2. Your relationship felt competitive

If a man has to compete with a woman for

control of the relationship, he not only feels

inadequate, but also like there’s no place for his

masculinity in his woman’s life.

Keep this in mind: it’s very important.

This isn’t to say that a man should control the

entire relationship, that’s unfair to both parties.

Rather, a successful relationship has

complementary forces where each person

relinquishes control in certain areas. If this

doesn’t happen, both parties end up in

competition — both compete to win and, in the

end, the relationship loses. This dynamic shows

up in scenarios like these:

In a social context with friends! Did the two of

you get in arguments about who was “right” in

front of friends?​

Financially, who is the breadwinner? Did you

make more money than him? And more

importantly, was it ever brought up in a way

that emasculated him?

Relationally, did you constantly make the

decisions in the relationship? Where to eat, what

fun things to do, or what movies to attend?

If he felt like you were against him instead of

for him, he never felt fully capable of opening

his heart because he was afraid of losing the

“game” and getting hurt.

3. He didn’t feel respected

A man can’t build a life with a woman who

doesn’t respect him. He has to feel that his

partner has his back above and beyond anyone

else — he must know that in his weakest

moment, she will shower him with acceptance.

Because, you see, here is the hidden truth

about your value: you are the key to his

greatness.

In order for him to unlock all that he has within

him, including his tenderness and willingness to

commit, he needs a deep and underlying

foundation of respect.

With a high caliber woman by his side he can

take greater risks in life and actually experience

more freedom than ever possible by himself.

So now that you know the reasons why he left,

how do you start to get him back? It’s time to

reflect and begin to take immediate action to

rectify the situation if you still truly love him.

Once you know how to breakthrough his

defenses and touch the deepest part of his

heart, he’ll feel an overwhelming calm and trust

that you truly (finally) get him.